“No one will help me,” my co-worker told me, their voice low, tired—almost resigned. It was 2008, the year of the financial crash. For my co-worker, it wasn’t just about the economy. They were the only ethnic minority in their team, and when the layoffs came, they were the first to go. No redundancy consultation, no fair process. When they approached HR, they were met with cold formalities. The union? Even they hesitated, unwilling to take on a fight that might not be won. That’s when I asked if I could help. I wasn’t in a position of power. I wasn’t a lawyer. But I had a choice: to be just another bystander watching the inevitable play out – or to be active.

‘There are two kinds of evil people in this world. Those who do evil stuff, and those who see evil stuff being done and don’t try to stop it.’ This is what social outcast Janis Ian tells previously home-schooled Cady Heron to convince her to participate in a revenge plot against queen bee Regina George in the 2004 teen comedy Mean Girls. Whilst disagreeing with the practice of evil promoted by Janis in the film (!), this blog agrees that letting something bad happen is, itself, a form of harm, and so promotes the practice of active bystanding.

Over a decade ago, I signed up to become a Harassment Support Advisor. We’re there when someone uses the Report & Support system, to offer an ear and signpost useful procedures and systems, all without judgement and in a completely confidential setting. Over the years I’ve attended a myriad of courses. One of the courses I attended that I always come back to, that I’ve found one of the most useful to recommend to those I meet with, is Active Bystander Training.